Stay Positive

Even When Situations Are Painful,
You Can Choose A Positive Attitude.

Positive-thinkingYou may not realize that your attitude is a choice, but it is! You can change your attitude and your outlook just by changing how you approach a subject or by thinking about something positive. Think positively, make the best of things and soon you will find your circumstances are beginning to change, as well.

I fully believe that we have power over the things that happen to us, and can change those things for the better by changing our attitudes. Joyce Meyer says, “A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you,” and this is absolutely true! When you allow your circumstances to control your attitude, get ready for a wild ride because you are going to be on a roller coaster of emotions! Instead of responding to everything that is happening around you, what if you looked deep inside and drew strength from a positive outlook? It is like building a shelter around yourself in the middle of a hurricane. No matter what happens, your inner attitude stays the same, giving you a bedrock foundation on which to build and move forward.

I know that it is hard to stay positive sometimes. When you feel sadness, negativity, anger or despair creeping in to your life, acknowledge it. Being positive does not mean being silly! Of course there are going to be time when our circumstances are challenging. What I am saying is not that you should never be upset; instead, I am saying that when you are upset, you should be able to turn inward, assess your position calmly and stay positive. If you can do that, you are on your way to controlling your circumstances instead of having your circumstances control you.
When you think positively and make the best of things you are not operating from a position of weakness. You are operating from a position of power. Your life will revolve around positive steps that can make you much more productive and give you resources to handle life’s problems!

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Success Means Making Lemonade Out of Lemons

When Life Gets You Down and Things Happen That Were Not Part of the Plan, The Most Important Thing You Can Decide To Do is Move On!

lemonadeIt is going to happen, no matter how well-organized you are, how hard you work or how nice of a person you are. You are going to come to a point where you simply run out of luck and skill and something goes wrong. If you want to achieve success, you will have to address this issue, learn from it and move forward. When the only thing you can do is move on, keep going and do not look back!

It may not have anything to do with you but it may affect you. Sometimes these “down times” can be devastating: the call from the doctor’s office you did not want to hear. The person in your life who suddenly and inexplicably turns against you. The sibling to starts a family quarrel and tries to draw you in. The employee who is rapidly becoming a liability instead of an asset.
You have been there, as have I. We all know that sinking feeling we get when we realize that things are going very, very badly. However, there may be little we can do to halt the process of something negative. Sometimes, we just have to move forward.

C.S. Lewis said, “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” What are you holding on to that will not let you move ahead? Is it an old relationship that still has a hold on you, even though you would be better off without it? Is it a feeling of guilt or shame? Is it fear of the unknown?
Whatever is hindering your success, move forward. You can learn from it if you move on and keep going in the right direction. Ultimately, if you put one foot in front of the other, you will come out successfully on the other side a wiser, stronger and better person for your experiences!

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Own Your Happiness

“Don’t put the key to your happiness in
someone else’s pocket.” Unknown

Key to Happiness on an old worn wooden desk top
Whenever I hear about a woman, or a man for that matter, who is struggling to get over a breakup or a job firing, I am always curious: how much of that person’s own happiness did he or she invest in that relationship? Unfortunately, all too often the answer is “too much.” You are the only person who can influence your happiness. In order to achieve success, you must own it; you must take responsibility for your own feelings rather than foisting them on to someone else.

Follow the logical train of thought here for just a moment. If someone else “makes you happy,” then you have put a huge burden on that person. Would you want to be responsible for someone else’s feelings? Of course not. No one would. That is an impossible burden to bear. Yet, many of us expect our spouses or our children or our bosses or our co-workers to “make us happy.” How can they possibly do that if we are not already happy?

Another reason never to fix our own happiness on someone else is because that person may disappoint us. As much as we do not like to admit it, spouses do sometimes walk away, even after years of marriage. Children may disappoint us by making poor choices. Bosses may fire us, even if we tried our hardest to do a good job. All these things are challenges, but they do not have to be tragedies if we own our own happiness. When you are not expecting someone else to make you happy, you begin to take steps and do things that are much more conducive to supporting your goals and your dreams. You just act differently, and other people will see the change in your confidence. Ironically, when you become self-confident, people are more eager to work with you and meet your expectations!

If you want real happiness and success, own it yourself. Become responsible for your own happiness and watch how quickly you move from depressing to dynamic when you stop relying on others for your joy!

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Love Yourself

“The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.” Unknown

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You may have heard of “loving yourself” without really understanding what that means. It does not mean being enamored of yourself so that you think you can do no wrong. It also does not mean always blaming yourself for everything that happens, good or bad! Instead, it means treating yourself the way you would treat your own child: expect the best but love in spite of the flaws.The simple truth is that if you are no good to yourself, you are no good to others. Building self-confidence and self-esteem comes from only one thing: you have to believe in yourself and love yourself for who you really are.

 
It is almost impossible for you to love yourself without taking a good, honest look at yourself, “warts and all.” Yes, you may be carrying a few extra pounds or you may not be any good with managing money. However, I would be willing to bet that the person you fell in love with and chose to be your life partner is not perfect. I would even be willing to bet that your children are not perfect, although it is hard to admit it! If we love these imperfect people so deeply despite their flaws, why do we have such a hard time loving ourselves in spite of our own flaws?

 
At the other end of the spectrum is recognizing your self-worth. No matter who you are, there are things you are good at. You possess certain critical talents. You have an affinity for something. Whatever it is, recognize and celebrate it! Start out by saying, “I know I am very good at _____” and fill in the blank with a genuine compliment. I recommend taping this to your bathroom mirror so that you see it every morning. What better way to start your day than to fill yourself with self-confidence and self-esteem? Show that you believe in yourself and love yourself and soon you will begin to reap the benefits of this mindset.

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