“The strongest factor for success is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.” Unknown
You may have heard of “loving yourself” without really understanding what that means. It does not mean being enamored of yourself so that you think you can do no wrong. It also does not mean always blaming yourself for everything that happens, good or bad! Instead, it means treating yourself the way you would treat your own child: expect the best but love in spite of the flaws.The simple truth is that if you are no good to yourself, you are no good to others. Building self-confidence and self-esteem comes from only one thing: you have to believe in yourself and love yourself for who you really are.
It is almost impossible for you to love yourself without taking a good, honest look at yourself, “warts and all.” Yes, you may be carrying a few extra pounds or you may not be any good with managing money. However, I would be willing to bet that the person you fell in love with and chose to be your life partner is not perfect. I would even be willing to bet that your children are not perfect, although it is hard to admit it! If we love these imperfect people so deeply despite their flaws, why do we have such a hard time loving ourselves in spite of our own flaws?
At the other end of the spectrum is recognizing your self-worth. No matter who you are, there are things you are good at. You possess certain critical talents. You have an affinity for something. Whatever it is, recognize and celebrate it! Start out by saying, “I know I am very good at _____” and fill in the blank with a genuine compliment. I recommend taping this to your bathroom mirror so that you see it every morning. What better way to start your day than to fill yourself with self-confidence and self-esteem? Show that you believe in yourself and love yourself and soon you will begin to reap the benefits of this mindset.