If You’ve Ever Found Yourself Wondering
Whether Or Not You Should Take A Chance,
Stop Wondering And Start!

In order to be successful in something, you first have to start doing it. There is a saying that goes, “You miss every shot that you don’t take.” When you don’t act, nothing ever happens to you. Fate is not going to come along and accomplish everything for you; you need to take action. You must take that first step, try something new, and then work towards your success.

It is natural to be afraid of something new and not want to begin it, but you cannot let that fear paralyze you. “Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.” Everyone has experienced nerves before they started something. They were jumping into the unknown, which can be terrifying! However, this is not a good enough reason to keep yourself from trying something for the first time. Everyone does things for the first time constantly throughout their lives. It could be something small, like thinking about learning a foreign language, or it could be something much bigger, like starting your own company. Whatever it might be that you are thinking about doing for the first time, you need to take the first step towards your goal in order to achieve it.

Pablo Picasso once said, “Action is the foundational key to all success.” You cannot persevere, much less succeed, if you never try. We all want to have success in the things that we do; it’s human to want that. In order to become good at something, we need to start doing it. Even if it seems difficult, we must persevere, because in the end it will be worth it. New experiences always bring some form of reward, for they teach us about ourselves if nothing else. We get to learn and grow in new and exciting ways when we begin something new. It is exciting to find out new things about ourselves, but in order to do this we must first step away from what is familiar and take the first step down a new path. Already you will be on your way to success, just for overcoming the fear and challenges that come with beginning something new.

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One Of The Most Important Components Of Self-Worth And Self-Confidence Is Knowing That Your Time Is Valuable.

I honestly believe that many women do not realize the value of their time, possibly because they have never been taught that it is perfectly okay to refuse to do something because someone is wasting it or to speak up when they feel taken advantage of. Remember to value your time! Each minute counts when you are trying to accomplish a goal!
One of the keys to success is time management, as anyone in business will tell you. There are only so many hours in a day, and you cannot work all 24 of them, so you have to make some decisions about how your time will be managed. In order to do that, you must learn to say no to the things that waste your time or are not productive.
Charles Darwin said, “A man who dares waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” I would add to that statement by saying that those who waste your time have not realized the value of it! It is up to you to stand up for yourself in this regard, because there are many people who will use your time with impunity if you allow them to do so.

Here are a few tips for managing your time and ultimately being more successful as an Ambitious Woman:

• Set limits. You may not be able to avoid all the time-wasters out there, but setting a limit is a good way to lessen their impact on your day. Give callers exactly one minute before you tell them that you will have to delay the conversation till another time, and make an appointment with them to continue. The rule of thumb is this: if they cannot say it in a minute, they cannot say it in 10, or 15, or . . . fill in your own amount of wasted time here. Do not allow people to encroach on your scheduled plans.
• Stand up to others. It may be hard to say no, but it gets easier with practice! An Ambitious Woman is not rude, but neither does she simply accept blindly the statements of others. Stand up for yourself and you will gain respect.
• Save time for you. Some of your time must be saved for yourself or you will never accomplish anything worthwhile. You must literally block time off on your calendar just for you!
Remember to value yourself enough to value your time. Your sense of self-worth and confidence are directly tied to how much value you place on your own time!

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“Kind Words Can Be Short And Easy To Speak, But Their Echoes Are Truly Endless.”- Mother Teresa

According to Psychology Today, Recent research suggests that kindness may improve resiliency by promoting feelings of happiness and peace and supporting immunity.  Cultivating happiness and peace is a key to resiliency because it bolsters one’s ability to stay grounded during difficult times.  It also keeps the body healthy and helps ward off disease.  Additionally, by improving interpersonal relationships, kindness can help build support systems so crucial during crises.

Research aside, think about the last time someone left you a kind note or sent you an email to just say hi, how did those small gestures make you feel? They probably made you feel happy and cared about. It does not take much to make someone’s day, the smallest gesture of kindness make a huge difference to someone.

My challenge to you is commit one small kind gesture to someone different each week. This could be sending an email to a friend just to say or a letter to a loved one, or even just a sticky note on the fridge for your spouse. Any way you can give a little kindness and encouragement will be appreciated more than you know.

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“Focus on being productive instead of busy.” Tim Ferris

I love this quote by Tim Ferris, which I have also heard put this way: work smarter, not harder. We may spend a great deal of time working, but that does not mean that a lot is getting done. Productivity is the word we use to designate the quantity and quality of work that we produce. We want to produce better results with less effort.

The way to do this is to limit distractions. For myself, I can honestly say that I need some isolation to get my best work done. Even when I am working on team project, I need some time away from the team to produce my individual contributions. This time must be time that is spent without a lot of distractions.

Time-wasting activities are not only limited to interminable phone calls, emails and chats. They can also be “leisure” activities that creep into our work time. For example, it is almost impossible for me to get any work done when I am sitting in front of the television with my laptop. It is not because I am really watching the show; the television may just be one for background noise. However, every time a show or even a commercial comes on, my attention is pulled away. This means that I am spending far too much time in “mini-breaks” of even a few seconds. Every time my attention focuses on something else and I have to come back to the task at hand, I am essentially restarting my thought process. This is an incredible time waster that will eventually show up in productivity.

There is nothing wrong with leisure time, but make it real leisure time. Allot a certain number of hours per week for relaxation and fun, and do not let that relaxing activity creep into your daily work life. A time and place for everything, as our grandmothers would probably say!

The answer may not be the one you want to hear, but it is relatively simple: limit wasted time watching television or playing video games. Remain productive!

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From The Moment We Wake Up Till The Time We Go To Bed,
We Are Continually Making Choices.

Sometimes we choose wisely, other times we choose randomly. It is very important to know what our goals are if we want to be able to choose the right path forward. I love the story of Alice In Wonderland because there are so many truths contained in that children’s book! If you remember, at one point, Alice comes to a fork in the road and asks the Cheshire Cat, “Which road do I take?” When the cat asks the very reasonable question, “Where do you want to go?” Alice

Truer words were never spoken! Another way to put this is to say that if you have no idea where you are going, how do ever expect to get there? You can take the scenic route or the direct road, but you will not even know when you have arrived. Many people set goals in exactly this way: “I want to make more money.” That is not a goal. If I make $10 today and $11 tomorrow, I have made “more money” but neither amount will feed my family for a day! However, if I say, “This year I want to make $10,000 more than last year,” we now have a concrete, measurable goal that we can chart progress toward and know when we have arrived.

The most important thing to remember when we are considering “forks in the road” is that we are responsible for our choices. JK Rowling, a lady who is no stranger to success, said, “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” If you believe this statement, it means that our choices actually reflect our inner person, no matter what the outside looks like. In fact, our outside will come to reflect our inside based on our choices to a large degree!

If you are at a fork in the road, set your sights on a goal. Work toward that goal and ignore the other things around you. If you do this, you will find that you are quickly moving toward a better you before you even realize it!

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As Human Beings We Can Have A
Tendency To Dwell On The Past.

We think about how we could have done things better or changed our actions to bring about a different result. I have been sitting around so many times picturing a conversation that has already happened and coming up with other, more brilliant things to have said. And to what end? This obsessive dwelling on the past is not helping anyone.

We cannot go back and change our actions; we can only look to the future and focus on real actions that could change our lives for the better.

Sometimes people stay focused on the past because they think it will define their future. They believe that whatever choices they made in the past have set them on one particular path that they cannot change. This is absolutely not the case! We must all stay optimistic about what the future holds, for we can always change our circumstance in some way.

As Buddha once said, “No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” All you need is a little encouragement and a positive outlook, focusing not on the past but rather the future and all of the possibilities that it holds.

There are so many people who have gone on from humble beginning to achieve great things. They never let their past define who they were going to become in their future. It is important to maintain a positive attitude because you can never be sure where your past will lead you.

The past can certainly be helpful to you in some cases, but it never has to be something that closes doors for you. As long as you stay positive and work hard, you can always find a way to bring about the future you would like to have, no matter what you have done in the past.

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Try, Try Again!

Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis became the First Lady at age 31, but her greatest accomplishment, according to her, was becoming a mother. “If you bungle at raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much,” she said. While Jackie identified herself as a wife and mother first, she did go on to become a famous New York editor after the deaths of her husbands. Her persistence allowed her to maintain focus all her life on self-improvement.

Jackie once said, “What is sad for women of my generation is that they weren’t supposed to work if they had families. What were they going to do when the children were grown—watch the raindrops coming down the windowpane?” She has a valid point. If your life is outwardly focused—on your kids, your husband or even your job—what do you do when those things are gone?

There is also another lesson we can take from Jackie’s life. Your greatest asset, whether in personal relationships, business or any other area of your life, is your ability to choose a task and stick to it until it is accomplished. You will be amazed at how much you can get done just from sheer tenacity!

Bethany Hamilton, the young surfer from Hawaii who at age 13 had her left arm bitten off by a shark, is a shining example of sticking to your goals no matter what. She was back on her surfboard a month after the near-deadly attack and won the Explorer Women’s Division of the NSSA National Championships. Persistence paid off for Bethany, and it will for you too!

Showing persistence and maintain focus are key to achieving your goals. I do not know what your particular goals are, but I can promise you this: you will never reach them without persistence. The world is not designed to push you toward your goals; rather, the world pushes you away from the things that are good and exciting in your life. You have to push back against the current and ensure that you have the right attitude of tenacity and persistence to reach whatever goal you have in mind!

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There is one thing that defines a woman who is successful in her business and personal life…

… and separates her from women who are not successful. Empowerment is the term we use to describe a woman who has been given the tools to succeed and has used them to attain her goals.  The empowered woman is a woman who is working hard and achieving the things she wants to achieve and who is enjoying success as she moves from one goal to another.  You may think that this does not describe you, but it could!

According to Steve Maraboli, “The empowered woman is powerful beyond measure and beautiful beyond description.”  If you have ever seen a truly empowered woman, you know that this is true.  Empowerment lends a beauty to a woman that she does not possess otherwise.  Therefore it should be a goal for every woman, no matter what her walk in life.
However, many women believe that being empowered is an accident.  They think that some women are lucky enough to be placed in situations in which they receive support from their family and employer and somehow become a great and successful business guru.  Actually, nothing could be further from the truth!  “To empower” is an action word, and it occurs when a woman takes control of her own life and her own destiny.

This is not to say that we do not have some control over empowering others as well.  When we empower someone through our words, actions or attitudes, we give them the ability to direct and control their own lives.  Empowering someone means setting them free to be what they were intended to be!

In order to enjoy empowerment, however, the empowered woman must take responsibility.  This means that she takes on the task of handling the things that directly affect her life and her goals.  Being empowered is not about being controlled, but being in control!  You have the power inside yourself to be whatever it is you want to be.  Do you want to lose 20 pounds?  Make $500,000?  Be a part of a successful company?  Have a supportive and nurturing relationship?  Whatever your goals are, they are in your control.  You make choices that determine whether you are empowered to achieve these goals or not.  Start today making the choices that empower you to reach your dreams, whatever they may be!

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Ambitious And Successful People Read All The Time.

What books are you reading to improve your knowledge? Of course, I hope that one of them is Ambitious Woman, my newest book!

David Bailey says, “The best advice I ever got was that knowledge is power and to keep reading.” Reading is the doorway to so many new thoughts and experiences that its importance cannot be underestimated.

It is hard for us to imagine that, only a few years ago, reading was not a common talent, particularly for women. No one really thought that taking the time to teach most children to read was worthwhile. Instead, they thought that teaching children a skill or a trade was paramount, as these children would have to earn a living very soon and would need those reliable skills to do so. It is easy to understand why people took this attitude but it is difficult to imagine how much those children’s lives would have changed if they had been taught to read. Who knows how many doctors, statesmen and leaders were lost simply because no one ever bothered to teach them to read?

When I think about this, I am so grateful that I was born and grew up in a time in history when teaching both boys and girls to read was taken for granted. There is no doubt in my mind that the ability to read is the difference between success and failure and the foundation for our lifestyles. We are all given the chance to expand our minds, but some of us refuse to do so for the silliest reasons possible: lack of time, lack of motivation and lack of interest.

It is important to clear this up immediately: reading is not optional if you want to be successful. I am not talking about reading quarterly reports, either! I am talking about the type of reading that takes your mind in a different directly, stretches your goals and introduces you to ideas which you may never have thought of before. That type of reading is the type that you want to do on a regular basis.

You can start with my book, Ambitious Woman, but do not stop there. Keep on reading and expanding your horizons!

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